Validation of Weakness
Validation of Weakness My Desire To Be Cared About… Hey again, yes I am still alive. Thankfully. This blog post, I just want to reveal how seeking external validation has been an ongoing problem for me. The pursuit of external validation I believe is a factor in why I find myself so stressed all the time at work and with my friendships. Always expecting a text back or someone to reach out to me at random…you know, just wanting someone to think about me now and again? I’ve reflected on this a lot. I can see that day in day out most of my actions seem to be in the pursuit of validation from others, whether that is at work from my colleagues, customers or even from my friends online that I really like. Seeking validation has caused me to have a negative self perception, as a result of always comparing myself against others as a measurement for success in my life, which is a losing battle. One reason for this persistent issue could be that I hardly have anyone around me… That makes me want to reassure myself that the small amount of people around me, do in fact care about me or give a shit about me. At least that to me seems like the most logical reason to why I am always seeking external validation. The origin of this issue could have been my high school days where I mostly kept to myself and didn’t really chat with others, I wasn’t really shy, per se, I more so just felt a deep disconnection to my peers at the time I feel. I didn’t really relate to many of my peers, which I suppose resulted in me not exactly fitting in with the group. Nobody gave a shit about me back then or cared, but I am definitely accountable for my unapproachable attitude during High School that is for sure. It is often best to not let others see the doom and gloomy side of you, as it will surely turn people away from you, including me… Who wants to be around someone negative all the time? That was how I was like in High School unfortunately! And when I say validation I don’t necessarily mean I want to please everyone to receive it I am well aware that its unrealistic to make everyone happy, I just want to be cared about, and to have a purpose in someone’s life, that’s all really. Which leads me onto this… I believe that this curse of always seeking validation from others is a perilous road, especially when the other person has a negative view of themselves and the world you are just asking for disaster. Overall, I would say if I begin disrupting this pattern of seeking external validation and instead seeking it from within myself instead perhaps my mental health will improve, especially at the moment I am too dependent on others to feel ‘good’ or ‘appreciated’ which can result in me being burned even by the smallest of “transgressions”. Perhaps I just want peace in my life and my heart and sometimes I feel I care too much about the opinions others have of me. I just need to let go… Perhaps going down the Phil Collins approach might be best idea for me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18UALvCPYs8 Other Posts Validation of Weakness ByTakumori April 19, 2025 Philosophy Validation of Weakness My Desire To Be Cared About… Hey again, yes I am still alive… Call of the Abyss ByTakumori March 7, 2025 Venting Calling of the Abyss: My Struggle With Nihilism Haven’t posted on here in a while… Well… The Loneliness Epidemic ByTakumori June 22, 2024 Philosophy The Loneliness Epidemic: Technology and Isolation The modern age and the technological revolution…